The Page About Rock Climbing, Comparing Yourself to Others, and Facing Your Fears


Sometimes we want to do something, we are about to do something, and we know we have the skills to do it. But then we start comparing ourselves to other people, and we fill ourselves with doubts.

We think to ourselves, “If they don’t do it, if they can’t do it, then I won’t be able to do it either – because they are so much better, or smarter, or stronger than me!”

But if we are brave enough to face those doubts, if we decide to do it anyway, we might get rewarded with the best possible feeling – the feeling of great pride and the biggest accomplishment. And it is in those moments that we discover what we are truly capable of.

In this episode of the Breverie Handbook podcast, I share a story about how I confronted my doubts and fear of heights in the rock climbing gym.

Tune in on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, or continue reading.

Do you know that feeling when you are sitting in a room full of people, smart people, and you are all discussing a problem, brainstorming solutions to this problem, and you, you personally, have an idea… You do believe that it is a good idea, but you are scared to bring it up. You are waiting for someone else to bring it up. But no one does.

You are thinking to yourself, “These are all such smart people, and none of them have raised this idea that I have, so it must be a stupid silly idea – otherwise someone would’ve brought it up! I cannot be smarter than all these people, so I will just stay quiet and will see what they have to say.” 

And so you never bring up your idea. 

And then you regret it later. And you replay that meeting over and over again, and you beat yourself up, “I should’ve brought up that idea! Why am I always so shy and such a coward??”

What’s interesting is that sometimes the same exact feeling can be evoked in a completely different situation, even when you are surrounded by the people you love and who love you, and who you should feel comfortable around. 

For example, it can happen to you when you go rock climbing with your family.

If anyone had told me 2 years ago that I would love rock climbing, that it would be one of my favorite hobbies, I would laugh in their face. “With my fear of heights? No way!” – I would say to them.

But, here I am – going to the rock climbing gym every Saturday with my family and absolutely loving it.

All week, both my husband and I look forward to it. It has really become the highlight of the week! We all love it, we do it every weekend, and even the fact that it takes 40 minutes each way to get to the gym doesn’t bother us. 

We already have our own climbing shoes, and all the gear, and it feels so good to be walking in every week and not stop to get rental gear – you feel like a pro!

There are just two challenges:

One – our daughter’s mood is a real rollercoaster. 

One minute she is full of enthusiasm and excitement, and she climbs on the wall with all the dedication and commitment, and the next moment she gets tired or hungry or both, and her mood flips instantly.

She becomes moody and grumpy, and she is sitting there with such a miserable facial expression that it is impossible to have any fun anywhere near her.

I am sure those of you who have kids, and particularly pre-teen and teenage kids, will understand me – at least I hope so! I hope we are not the only parents who are going through this struggle.

And the really funny thing is it was actually Dasha who introduced our family to rock climbing. I know that she still loves it, it’s just her mood that is so sensitive and so fragile that makes it very tricky. 

But, it won’t stop us from doing it!

And the second challenge is, well, my fear of heights. 

It hasn’t gone anywhere. 

Listen to the full story on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

Until next time,

Olena xx

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